Friendship - Priceless treasure of life

“A single soul dwelling in two bodies” – Aristotle’s definition on Friendship
Friendship is only a relation that survives very common in mankind’s life. It gives supportive companionship between the affectionate persons. It involves unique blends of love, loyalty, affection, trust and fun. It is considered to be one of the human experiences in life. Everybody can have or have not things like family, children, education, etc. But friendship is unavoidable in the life of every one and without it one will be considered as a non-living being.
Friendship may be created between rich and poor, male and female, old and young. It is also apart from such as: caste, beauty, money, status, position, etc. Nobody knows when the friendship will develop and with whom it will get started.
Friendship is a passion. It cannot be measured by words or thoughts. Friendship is eternal. A friend is some one who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflecting behaviors as proverb goes – A friend in need is a friend indeed.
A best friend knows you better than what knows you yourself. Different people have different opinions about friendship according to their experiences they had. Some one says it is merely a companionship. While other one says it is a dynamic one.
The degree of intimacy decides the thickness of the friendship. It will sustain only by mutual understandings between two individual persons. The value of friendship narrated through the different famous stories in the historical events and mythologies. We can also know about the true friendship in many films through the depicted characters.
Real friendship needs certain accountability. Both the persons encourage one another and forgive when they are quarreled. Also they should not expect anything except unconditional love. It also involves caring and concern. They should be devoted with the same feelings.
When we share our happiness with friends it will be doubled and share difficulties it will be reduced as half. The real friendship needs not physically presence in every time. If they meet some times only, the feelings to be remembered in every time. We aspiring rain during summer and so we desire friends during our hard times. The happenings may be one time but the remembrance is every time. It is possible only in the friendship. The cloudy moments will be changed as brightness when the friends meet together.
True friend is never far away even if he lives in the different places, which is short, or distance. Life is full of ups and downs. The real friend will pick you up when you are down and he will also happy when you are up. The normal days will be changed as a special days when friends meet together. The real friend will be spoken in one’s mind. There are no great blessings than have a good friend in life. A true friend will know everything that lies in your heart. The mobile battery will be charged when it dries. Like so, a true friend will act as a charger, when you feel as desperation.
The friendship may also be created within the family, between father and son, mother and daughter, brother and sister regardless of age.
Communications between the friends is placed more important in the life. During their long gap in meeting, they can recapture their happiness through their earlier communications. Some time some important or colloquial words occupied through their life long. The communication between the friends is changed in every period. Earlier they communicated through mail only. Now science improves, it changed to mobile, internet, etc.
A real friendship should have the following inherent qualities so that it will live ever.
F.R.I.E.N.D.S.H.I.P.
F - Faith
R - Reality
I - Intimacy
E - Eagerness
N - Need
D - Depth
S - Shape
H - Honesty
I - Indeed
P - Pride
There are no boundaries to the real friendship. The real friend knows the likes and dislikes of others. Real friendship should be a truthful and even it may hurt.
One can find the real friendship during their hard times. Once the situation is unfavourable, every one surrounding you hurts even that time also one will you for ever is a good friend. No situations can change status of the friendship.
The real friendship should be inseparable as:
1) Man and shadow
2) Flower and fragrance
3) Rain and crop
4) Eye and eyelid
5) Sea and water
6) Candle and light
A blind person can see the world through his friend’s eye.

Life Style - Man and his life in society

Man – God’s creature
Man is the creature of God and his life is the gift of God. He can live how he wants. He can fulfill his desire, as he likes. The sixth sense which is given to man by God and it is only differs man from the other living things.
Meaning of life
In every language, especially in English, we can form the sentences in several types for giving the same meaning. Like, every man can live according to his own style. But, the meaning of their life only to do something to the society and helpful to others.
Duties of life
In society, every man has some duties. The duty begins even in a smaller age i.e., from the school life. As a student, his duty is to obey the teachers and parents for the better future. In a growing age, the duty is going on towards the environment and situation. In a working place and public place he has some basic duties according to his capacity. In a society, he should not be as a social animal. All rivers are ultimately mixed in the ocean. Like that, every man’s duty should be oriented towards the society.
Thinking power in life
Empty vessel makes noise. Something put in the vessel the noise will disappear. Like so, empty mind make harmful to others. If he thinks some useful thoughts, it will help not only him but also to the society. In birth, every man has given brain as same level by God. One can develop it by proper thinking. A good sow will make a good crop. A pot maker makes pots in several forms with the same raw material by his thinking power. As such, every one can think for self, others and society. A politician thinks good, the country will develop. A poet thinks good, it comes out as a good song. A story writer thinks good, it gives a good story.
Making life as meaningful
Every man can change his life in any period of his life cycle. The real happiness is inside him. He does not satisfy with the present life, he can immediately change it and make a meaningful one. If he unhappy in the moment, he can suddenly analyse the reason and change the moment with a happy one. The real meaningful life is helping to others. In a family, friends, working place and public place, he can exchange his ideas with others and get ideas from others, so that, it will be helpful to every one. God has also created everything in different form as nature to live a man peacefully and make his life meaningful. If you observe the natural things like wind, water, earth, fire, sky, you can learn several and individual things from the each one. These are common to all. But man only divide themselves by doing harmful, conflictions and some other things. Live and let to live others is a real meaningful life.
Calculations and proper editing in life
In world, everything acts on certain rules. Though it is not invisible, it is true. All things are happen only between the both ends. The balanced one only worked out. Whatever happens, one should not lose his balance of mind. Every success man get his success from the hard working and timely thinking. The life has also some calculations. Even in a small matter there is some calculations. For example, we want to get specific number, it comes only by adding, multiplying, substracting.each other. In life also, make some calculations all through his life. If the calculations are worked out, then he can easily win in the life. Proper editing of life make some good. A good film comes only from proper editing. As so, every man should also make some editing in his life. It will brought out his individuality in a good manner.
Learning things in life
Man may learn and realize many things from him, others, nature and society throughout his life. Every learning is a new lesson and new experience. Every one has different experience in all his life. Every one can observe and capture useful things around with him. When you are sad, turn your heart on which you like most in the world. A good remedy to the sad mind is hearing a good music. It is a common one to all. When you are in confusion, you can do meditation. Going to temple, mosque, church to get the blessings of God according to their belief will definitely give timely relief.
Understanding things in life
Every man should content with his own life. He should not compare with others. Reciprocal is essential to understand each other. Acceptance of new things from others is very important. Money is not the only thing in the matter of life. Beyond that, love and other things also there. It makes man as complete. Sometimes man should have patience according to the situation. Who have patience and endurance will get success ever. Sharing communications each other is a very good one When somebody has done good for you, don’t forget ever. Sometimes, we got disappointed with the persons whom we like, trust or believe more. Our expectations with the other persons are going wrong, don’t blame others. Set your mind according to the situation.
True friendship in life
A true friendship will not come only by mere act. It comes some thing common between each other and tell the same by inner mind. A thick friendship decides some common factors between the persons. Sometimes some one adjust some how for some thing.
Do’s and Dont’s in life
Every man in his life some do’s and don’ts. If he correct the don’ts, the life will be a better one. If he has do’s more, his life will become brightful. Generally, one can improve by following some principles as given under:
1. Do think others also great as you
2. Do think best for future and don’t think only past experiences
3. Appreciation should come from others for your activities. Don’t satisfy with you for your self activities.
4. Don’t see the clock while working hours and give importance to your work in your work place.
5. Self improvement is essential for every man. It should be attained only by your hard work.
6. Self thinking is also essential to do something wonder which only give your individuality
7. Think positive in all things. Don’t think negative even in a small matter
8. Don’t hesitate to give your own ideas to others. Also don’t hesitate to get ideas from others
9. Do believe there is a time for all. Don’t frustrate for not coming the immediate result for your activities
10. Do keep silence in some times and speak only whenever necessary. This avoid unwanted controversies.
11. Keep record for correct your deficiencies.
12. Try to learn something new and keep the old best things
Ultimatum of life
Man can give password for all his own creations. But no body knows what the password given to him by God on his birth. To know the fact, every one should attain the divine form in his life and show his faithfulness to the God for given the birth.

குளிர் (சிறுகதை)

மார்கழி மாதத்தின் கடைசி நாள். ரிடயர்ட் ஆபிசர் விஸ்வநாதன் காலை பத்து மணியளவில் தனது காலை பணிகளை எல்லாம் முடித்து விட்டு வீட்டு தாழ்வாரத்தில் அமர்ந்து ஓய்வாக கண்ணை மூடியவாறு மனக்கண் முன் தனது வாழ்கையை திரும்பிப் பார்கலானார்.

நடுத்தர குடும்பத்தில் பிறந்த விஸ்வநாதன் அரசாங்க உத்தியோகத்தில் கடைநிலை ஊழியராக சேர்ந்து பின்பு படிபடியாக உயர்ந்து 25 ஆண்டுகள் வேலை பார்த்து போன மாதம் தான் ஓய்வு பெற்றிருந்தார். மங்களம் என்ற பெண்ணை கைபிடித்து இரு மகன்களை பெற்று எடுத்திருந்தார். மகன்கள் இருவரையும் இயன்ற அளவு படிக்க வைத்திருந்தார். மூத்த மகன் இறுதி வகுப்பு வரை படித்து விட்டு அதற்கு மேல் படிக்க விருப்பம் இல்லாததால் ராணுவ வேலையில் தேர்வாகி அதில் பணியாற்றி கொண்டிருந்தான். இளைய மகன் பசுபதி ஓரளவு நன்றாக படித்ததால் கல்லூரியில் மேல் படிப்பை படித்து விட்டு தனியார் கம்பெனி ஒன்றில் பொறுப்பான வேலையில் இருக்கிறான். அப்பாவுக்கு மூத்த மகன் மேல் செல்லம். இளைய மகன் அம்மா செல்லம்.


யோசித்து கொண்டிருந்தவருக்கு மனைவி மங்களம் குரல் தட்டி எழுப்பியது. தபால்காரன் கொண்டு வந்து கொடுத்த கடிதத்தை எடுத்து வந்து அவரிடம் கொடுத்தார். வழக்கம் போல் மூத்த மகனிடமிருந்து கடிதம் வந்திருந்தது. அதில் நலம் விசாரித்து விட்டு தனது வேலை சூழ்நிலை பற்றி எழுதியிருந்தான். எல்லையில் குளிர் அதிகமாக இருப்பதால் பணியாற்றுவது சிரமமாக இருப்பதாகவும் எனினும் அதை தானும் சக வீரர்களும் பொருட்படுத்தாமல் அயல் நாட்டு தீவிரவாதிகளை இரவு பகல் பாராமல் கண்காணித்து வருவாதகவும் குறிப்பிட்டிருந்தான். விசுவநாதனுக்கு பெருமையாக இருந்தது. உள்ளே வேலையாக இருந்த மங்கலத்தை அழைத்து கடித விபரத்தை படித்து காட்டி மூத்த மகனை பற்றி வாயார புகழ்ந்தார்.

மங்கலத்திற்கு மகிழ்ச்சியாக இருந்தாலும் தனது இளைய மகனை விட்டுக் கொடுக்காமல் அவனை பற்றி கூற ஆரம்பித்தார். என்ன இருந்தாலும் அவன் அம்மா செல்லம் ஆயிற்றே. உங்களுக்கு ஒன்று தெரியுமா நம்ம பசுபதி இந்த மார்கழி மதம் முழுவதும் அதிகாலை நான்கு மணிக்கே எழுந்து தலைக்கு குளித்து தினமும் கோவிலுக்கு சென்று வருவாதகவும் அதற்கு காரணம் கேட்டதற்கு தனது தாய் தந்தை ஆரோக்கியமாக இருக்க வேண்டும் என்றும் வயதாகி கொண்டிருக்கும் அண்ணனுக்கு சீக்கிரம் நல்ல வரன் அமைய வேண்டும் என்று இறைவனிடம் பிரார்த்தனை செய்து கொண்டிருப்பதாகவும் கூறினான்.



இதை கேட்ட விச்வனதனுக்கும் மகிழ்ச்சியாக இருந்தது. எப்படியோ நாம் இருவரும் நாட்டுக்கு ஒரு பிள்ளையையும் வீட்டுக்கு ஒரு பிள்ளையையும் பெற்று எடுத்திருக்கிறோம் என்று மனைவியிடம் சொல்லி அக மகிழ்ச்சி அடைந்தார். அவர்கள் இருவரது மனமும் மார்கழி மாத குளிரை போல் பெரும் மகிழ்ச்சி அடைந்திருந்தது.

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